were serial rapists, who drank heavily to fuel their crimes, attacked visitors in gangs, lusted after the power of angels, knew first hand of the God/dess but refused morality and cheated and lied and thieved. And raped. Raped. Over and over. In mobs. Will religious leaders have you believe they were destroyed them for raping …
Category: sexuality
Cruelty of “Acceptance”
When I was young (14-16), I'd witnessed straight male classmates make jokes to their bi and gay friends about how they better not hit on them. Since then, I'd seen other straight women do this too. The cruelty with which this "acceptance" was laced was so obvious to me. How is not immediate to someone …
Critique and Complacency in Examining Gender as a Performance
A couple of years ago, photographs of men in stereotypical 'pin-up' poses circulated the Internet. The photographs, featuring men accessorized with 'masculine' items but contorted in 'feminine' poses, are by artist Rion Sabean, and I encountered them rather early on in the feminist blogosphere. The general consensus by feminist commentators was that they were exceptional--an …
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LGBT people get to decide whether you are their ally; you don’t.
This email has been brought to you by questions from straight people like yours truly. To "fellow allies" or whatever, I don't know whether I'm an LGBT ally. I don't talk about how much of an ally I am or about being an ally. That is because the decision is not mine. My intention is …
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a note to LGBT Muslims
Over the past couple of years I've received some messages in my inbox asking for advice. I can't imagine why anyone would ask me, a straight woman, about advice coming out, except out of desperation and having nowhere else to turn. It breaks my heart to know I can't help you because I can't possibly …
Sweater. (and modesty)
When I was very little, I attended Quranic classes at the mosque with other small children. On one occasion, I stood lined up for prayer while the instructor lectured on prayer etiquette. It was midsummer in California. The heat was almost unbearable. My hair was uncovered, but I was wearing a sweater, and I felt …
On sexual knowledge
Very briefly, I’d like to address the annoying and incessant reemergence of a peculiar social/unfortunately feminist phenomenon: the defining of sexual pleasure in rigid constraints and the application of these constraints to the criteria of a feminist accordingly. You may be familiar with it. Not long after Role/Reboot republished a post I had written months …
the fatal feminist 