I’m a size 30B. They do not carry 30B in stores, as most women have larger ribcage sizes. Bras that are 30B are only available online. So on top of having to settle for bras that aren’t truly my size in order to avoid shopping online, I have to accept the fact that pretty bras aren’t made in smaller sizes.
I feel awful, because isn’t that so materialistic? Great, Nahida, of all the problems in the world, you’re bitching about how you can’t find pretty bras.
But hey, I retain the right to be human. (After all, that may also be my saving grace.)
I am by no means complaining about being thin: fat women have it much, much harder. Fatphobia, often excused under the guise of health concern, is a huge problem. Bitch magazine had an article about a woman who was aiming for the world record in most weight, and she was met with concern about her health–and, at the same time, hateful expressions of “I hope she just dies.” So yeah, I recognize my privilege.
But dammit, can’t we just make pretty lingerie for all body types?
Besides that, this isn’t really about being thin either. To claim it is would be a whole other issue. Fat women can have small cup sizes. Thin women can have large cup sizes. We aren’t cookie cutter proportionate. The ideal shouldn’t be cookie cutter “proportionate” especially when ideal proportions aren’t realistic. No, this is more about never getting it right. Smaller sizes–anything below C, I guess–are infantilized and have some weird virginal social stigma that associates them with little girls despite the fact that they belong to grown women. Larger sizes–D and above, supposedly–well, those women are just “asking for it.”
The root of my issue is that my bra size (the sister size to 30B is 32A in stores [up a number=down a letter]) doesn’t matter enough to make pretty bras for and that kind of makes me suspicious of what the reasoning behind this is… I can’t help but wonder if it might be because of what men care to see on women and not what women want to wear themselves. Women cupped above size A deserve pretty bras because they actually have something to show for them. And us? What do we want them for?