I receive emails about where this post goes every time I take it down, so I'm leaving it up. There has been a piqued interest in my life lately, for reasons I do not understand. I assure you all that my life is very uninteresting, that it is quiet, and that I’m fond of it. …
Expect children to assert themselves.
I quite enjoy children who talk back to me. Presenting a line of reasoning to a child or, as with my 15-year-old disciple, Misha (who will tell you she is an adult) considering her arguments about what I’ve written is an invaluable experience. I can't for the life of me imagine why anyone would want …
Men cannot properly use the term “white feminism.”
I never let a white man pass when he's accusing a white woman of white feminism because I recognize immediately that he's using that term because he thinks he's exempt. The term in this usage adopts a sexist dynamic that targets BIWoC and ww and non-binary people. After all, why would a white man choose …
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Feminine Pain: Expression vs Normalization
It is a myth that “patriarchy discourages men from displaying emotions,” and a dangerous one. A variety of emotions, ranging from anger to ambivalence to jealousy (unavailable to women, who are perceived as irrational, cold, erratic) is perceived as valid and more so objective in men. Even the argument that patriarchy discourages all sexes from …
Enough.
In response to descriptions of Ansari’s sexual misconduct, Caitlin Flanagan wrote a horrendous article which I will not link (but you have undoubtedly seen) with many memorable quotes, including this one: “I thought it would take a little longer for the hit squad of privileged young white women to open fire on brown-skinned men. I …
We Object to Performative, Anti-Black Misuses of the Terms “Intersectionality” and “White Feminism” in the Non-Black Muslim Community
by Inas Hyatt and TFF Non-black Muslims often (mis)appropriate the terms “intersectionality” and “white feminism” to the detriment of black Muslim women. This appropriation ranges from coopting the theory of intersectionality to defend Muslim men who threaten or deflect from Muslim women accusing them of assault, to sidetracking from the migrant slave trade by introducing …
Say Something
Today I happened across a recording of Jennifer, a friend of mine from grad school, and I stumbling over the piano attempting to play "Say Something." There are loads of mistakes. It was about four years ago and a wonder to hear again. (If you want to distinguish between our voices, she's the who starts …
the fatal feminist 