Hiatus.

Thanks to a major life decision I’ve just made, TFF is going to be on hiatus for 3 months. When I return I’ll be a brand new lady. But you won’t care. Unless I bring you presents maybe? I promise I’ll bring presents. I’ll play the piano for you. I’ll read you a poem in Arabic, the language of poems. I’ll tell you a story about dust and the sea. I’ll leave the wind on your answering machine. I’ll write you love letters in the form of blog posts.

Expect my return in late August. Ramadan Kareem in advance, and in advance Eid Mubarak. Email correspondences will not be delayed any more than they are usually delayed, so please feel free to contact me. Those who have tried already are aware that unless you are detailing an alarming, distressing circumstance or otherwise emailing me to tell me you are suicidal (in which case I will respond immediately) responses will be delayed for weeks and sometimes months. I apologize for this in advance, and assure you it’s because I am an introverted and reserved person, and not because I have better things to do than speak to you, because you are the best of all things.

Known friends, however, can expect prompt replies. I might possibly be deactivating my Facebook (unsure), so use my email/phone number/the billion other ways to contact someone if that happens. Of course.

I’ll still be around this general area, so I will see reader comments. And I assure you, TFF will comparatively improve when I return. Because of the brand new lady thing and all.

Until then I will miss you and I mean it. I love hearing from you… even when I don’t respond the next day. Or the next month. I’m with you in spirit.

Always,
Nahida

The “Reference” Section

I have added one! (I officially have too many tabs. I hope it isn’t overwhelming.)

Occasionally I am asked what my sources are, and most of the time I remember, and sometimes I don’t. This is because the way I write posts isn’t really calculated–I tend to not know what I’m about to write until I begin. I just do lots and lots of reading and it sort of all just spills out, like gutting a fish. (I think. I have never gut a fish.) By the time I’ve finished reading various books everything feels like something I’ve always known or just common knowledge. But! Now you can see what I’ve been reading! It’s incomplete but I will be adding the rest. Currently it is listed in alphabetical order, but I’m debating between this arrangement and “in order of what I like the best.” No matter what you do or don’t read on that list, pick up Asma Barlas’s Believing Women in Islam because when I read it it was EVERYTHING I HAVE EVER THOUGHT, SERIOUSLY and were this section “in order of what I like best” she would be first on the list, every time. Every Islamic feminist should have that book. Every feminist should have that book! (I will impose on the mainstream! Why not?) And every Muslim should have it. Every Muslim man. Shove it at him as a gift and force him to read it. In fact MAKE IT A PREREQUISITE FOR MARRIAGE.

I’m serious. Put that in your contract too.

P.S. If there is a post and you want to know the source of that specific post, you can still askify me in the comments.

A Temporary Farewell

I don’t know how long I will be gone—it can be anytime between two weeks to two months. Considering I keep doing this lately, I’m going to estimate the latter and just accept that I need to take that time.

–During which, the site will remain public for your perusal. I received a few very beautiful messages regarding its status as private the last time, and I haven’t been able to respond to them yet but intend to do so soon. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my writing, and for writing to me. I just—well I just can’t imagine anyone would ever feel any assurance from my writing, and I feel so moved, and I figured the least I could is provide an explanation for my absence this time.

So here is a little note. Mostly, I just have a few things I need to finish. The good news is that I will still be writing for you whenever I feel the urge—you just won’t see it here until I return. (That takes off the anxiety I feel to continue updating frequently when I’m too occupied.) So when I do come back—inshaAllah, I’ll have a couple of things ready.

I will still be tweeting and checking my messages of course. While I’m gone, I’ll leave you some links to amazing, insightful posts. At some point most of these were tweeted, but I really really love them. So, in case you missed them:

Jadey writes about women capitalizing on local inventions and why it’s so important and effective as opposed to traditional colonialist charity.

Chally writes about how men weaponize laughter. (Okay seriously, just go read everything Chally Kacelnik has ever written.)

Here’s a stunning retelling of The Ramayana by Clarisse Thorn, from the perspective of Sita. The storytelling does have religious significance for some, so approach respectfully and remain aware of your parameters.

An article on the dynamics of conflict between Pakistan and Afghanistan.

And female imams in China, where this true tradition remains largely undisturbed by patriarchal infringements.

I will see you soon, and will miss you.

SO. This is awkward…

Dear Everyone Who Requested Access to the Site While it was Private,

I wasn’t checking the email account associated with this website–so I didn’t know you’d requested access! I apologize. I was not ignoring you. I didn’t think anyone would send a request! So I figured there was nothing to check. I’ll make note to continue to check my inbox while the site is private in the future.

In other news I am glad to be back!

xXx Nahida